In the early days of civilization, feudalism is when the boss will have abundant of yes-man. Everybody seems to share what the bosses felt. If he is sad then everybody must emulate him. Anyone displeased the boss, he will be sent to the gallows and if not death is beckoning him, he will be sent into exile.
As civilization evolved, things change. Nonetheless, while the masses started to become more independent, the so called courtiers’ still exists until today.
In a quote; “The perfect courtier thrives in a world where everything revolves around power and political dexterity. He has mastered the art of indirection; he flatters, yields to superiors, and asserts power over others in the most oblique and graceful manner. Learn and apply the laws of courtiership and there will be no limit to how far you can rise in the court”
Whether we like it or not, we agree to it or otherwise, we need to be a courtier to progress especially in making our job successful. On that needs the following might be useful for us or at least for me to ponder upon to necessitate any instances that I need to become a courtier.
- 1. Avoid being a showboat
- 2. Be casual
- 3. Do not flatter too much
- 4. Be seen but not too audaciously
- 5. Do not show that you are a paragon of civilization
- 6. Brings good news and let others to tell the bad news
- 7. Do not be over friendly with your boss. You are still his subordinate
- 8. Avoid criticizing you boss openly although you do not agree with him when he misinterprets anything or when he is blatantly wrong
- 9. Do not make a habit of asking him for favors and never ask favors on behalf of others
- 10. Never joke about your boss appearance or taste
- 11. Do not attempt any cynical comment. The least you could do is to express modest admiration for other people’s achievement
- 12. Be a master actor and know when to cry or laugh when it is appropriate
- 13. Lit the light when it is dark
“A man who knows the court is master of his gestures, of his eyes and of his face; he is profound, impenetrable; he dissimulates bad offices, smiles at his enemies, controls his irritation, disguises his passions, belies his heart, speaks and acts against his feelings” – Jean de La Bruyere, 1645-1696
Last but not least; Honesty is a fool’s game.